Thanks to FATHERS and Their Families
RECOGNITION AND HONOR
This month our Nation’s Families will celebrate and honor Father’s Day. Many families personally do something special to honor their Father’s love, commitment, and the value he brought into their lives. Things families do to express love and appreciation range from giving thoughtful cards, to purchasing a unique gift that fits his personality or hobby, and of course, take him out to a tasty dinner. There is no one absolute standard how to celebrate and your father. It is the thought that count.
During this day, take a moment to reflect on something of value your Father or father figure instilled into your development that has impacted your personal, educational, and social success. Whether your dad was involved in your life or not, you are successful because of what you learned about him. Maybe, you learned the specific social factor that “broke” him as an once strongman resulting in addictive behaviors. For example, the psychological effects of combat experienced by veterans usually take a period to readjust. One veteran Father, of a friend of mine, spent most of his son’s developing years in and out of alcohol treatments trying to recover from the severe PTSD he battled. It is an honor to give credit to the fathers who were present physically and emotionally but struggled psychologically.
THE DEVELOPING FATHER
Fathers aren’t, by far perfect; however, it is the consistency of love, patience, and nurture that is ideal. Are you the Father that show your kids how to improve peace and stability within a relationship? Fathers who admit their mistakes at the table during family talks will model for their kids how to reconnect and repair offended emotions that are vital to the success of any relationship. Admitting is an excellent choice as a part of taking responsibility.
Fathers who express gratitude to their children will build future leaders that influence others. Influence is the idea of who you are rather than status and position. Therefore, a father of Being rather than Doing will make a more significant impact on developing the leader within their children.
Thank you for your support of love to the emotional and mental health in blended families. Admirably, stepfathers are the “sine qua non;” because, without which, your guardianship prevented one more childhood suicide. The unique challenges of being a stepdad have created strong lifetime bonds. In so much, that when the kids get older, and they have gained experienced, all that you were in their lives brings them to express much gratitude.
In the story, Dad Was A Carpenter: Blueprints for a Meaningful Life, the author Kenny Kemp’s Father was a pharmacist by profession. However, his Father was also good at building projects and renewing life in old dejected furniture. He had a way to see the good in things. Likewise, stepfathers, you are seeing and building remarkable projects in your blended families.
Charles T. Walker